Ever feel that something is “not quite right” within you, but don’t know how to express it – or what you can do about it? Logan Psychologist Lauren Brockie sheds some light on this common problem …
- I’ve lost my zest for life
- Feeling as flat as a pancake
- Bored and disinterested in life
- Just feeling a bit off
Do any of these sayings sound familiar to you? Perhaps a family member or friend makes these comments? Maybe you silently say them to yourself?
Some people feel that they “shouldn’t” access a Psychologist because they aren’t “depressed” (according to the DSM-V criteria). Others even feel they “shouldn’t waste the doctor’s time” when they know they aren’t feeling as happy, content or motivated as they used to – it’s not like they’re sick or anything! This hesitation can, over time, lead to a decline in overall mental health.
It’s Hard to Put Yourself First
When we travel on a plane and listen to the soothing voices of the flight attendants taking us through the safety demonstration, what is it we hear them say to do if there is an issue which requires oxygen masks to be deployed?
“If you are travelling with a child or someone who requires assistance,
secure your mask on first, and then assist the other person.”
Some people find it difficult to put themselves first, or do something for themselves. We all want to be the best mother, father, sibling, friend and worker that we can … and to do that, we need to be the best person we can be … so why not be proactive about securing a healthy emotional future?
The desire for happiness is a great motivator for some. When my clients talk to me about their goals, a lot of the time they list wanting to “feel happy” high up on the list. They commonly state that when they are feeling good, they seem to attract positive results, but when they are feeling down they seem to just be a magnet for even more negativity. Most people are aware of some thoughts and activities that can “lift” their mood, and can identify others that bring them down.
Caught in a Negative Spiral?
Some of you will know only too well how this negative downward spiral works:
Feeling bad/down about self;
Unenthusiastic attitude/lowered motivation;
Ineffective or self-destructive behaviour;
Poor/negative feedback from others;
Increasing levels of unhappiness.
Help is at Hand!
Despite recognising this cycle, we can sometimes find it hard to step out of our gloomy or grey world and towards the “feel happy” goal. We are faced with so much lifestyle advice in the media and rows upon rows of self-help books telling us what we “should” be doing to feel happier. How overwhelming!
Rather than procrastinating because you feel overwhelmed or unsure where to start, why not meet with a Psychologist who can help you streamline the process and identify what unique and individual goals you have, to move yourself out of the funk you are in?
If you have been feeling a bit off for longer than a couple of weeks, I would love to meet with you and help you feel happy again!
Author: Lauren Brockie, B Beh Sc, PG Dip Psych, M Psych (Sport & Exercise), M Psych (Clinical), MAPS.
Lauren Brockie is an experienced psychologist, working with adults, couples, adolescents, and children. With a warm and practical approach, Lauren enjoys supporting and challenging her clients, to assist them with reaching their goals.
To make an appointment with Lauren Brockie, try Online Booking – Loganholme or call M1 Psychology (Loganholme) on (07) 3067 9129.